Forgiveness: Should We Give It?

"Forgiveness is a pinnacle that is hard to reach."

     We will all eventually find ourselves in situations where we have to decide whether or not to forgive

the actions, or even words, of someone close to us. I believe a lot of things do influence whether or not 

we choose to forgive. Our upbringing, our religious beliefs and our own personalities are driving forces

when we are faced with the dilemma of forgiveness. We will hear some people say that they were 

taught to forgive because the Father forgives us while others do say that they need to forgive for their 

own peace of mind. Some people have it in them to be "the bigger person" and let "bygones be 

bygones." We have a beautiful sounding word for it known as being "magnanimous."

     Whatever that helps to lead us down the path of forgiveness does not negate from the fact that it is a 

difficult thing to do. We humans seem mostly to be naturally vengeful. We want to even the score 

when someone does us wrong even if it's just our perception that the person betrayed us. Our instinct is 

to make them pay and we make this known by saying "there will be hell to pay." We then become 

consumed by plots in our head about how to get even. Then there are some people who will calmly 

declare that they have forgiven the culpable person soon after the hurtful deed. A key word there is 

"calm" because I've noticed that these forgiving persons seem to have an air of peace and calm about 

them. It is reflected on their face and in their voice. So, maybe, after all, forgiveness does bring back 

some calm to our lives after the turmoil of the events that hurt us. Forgiveness just may be the antidote

that allows us to experience renewal and peace after a storm.


Comments

  1. BeverleyAugust 5, 2017 at 5:24 PM

    Comments are welcomed. Thank you.

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  2. ChrisJAugust 16, 2017 at 6:53 PM

    In my opinion, to not forgive is only to harm yourself. Forgetting, now that is a totally different thing. That requires more wisdom.

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    1. BeverleyAugust 19, 2017 at 8:48 PM

      I too believe that it's best to forgive. Holding on to anger and resentment towards someone is negative energy that will block the flow of light into our lives. We may still remember it but we just shouldn't dwell on it.
      Thank you very much for your comment.

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