Cheating: Is it worth it?

"The stakes are always high in a game of cheating."

     When I think about the topic of cheating, I generally think about those who cheat in love, in sports

or in business.  It's a broad subject but I will focus on cheating in love in this blog.  Cheating is 

probably as old as the water in the oceans.  There was someone long ago who had the first (dis)honor 

of cheating on his/her partner. We have to bear in mind that it can only be regarded as cheating if you 

live in a society where monogamy is the accepted framework for relationships.  We know by now that 

there are varied structures of relationships in different societies. Even right here in America where 

monogamy is the norm, we have those who practice their "fringe love" which includes having more 

than one partner.

     Let's get back to the monogamous relationship where we expect the two people involved to be 

faithful to each other. Daily they have to practice the art (and science) of "forsaking all others."

Some people will even say that they shouldn't even look at other people as looking is a form of cheating

or it at least shows the intention is there.  So why do some people cheat after making a commitment to

share intimacy with only one person?  Is it a lack of self-discipline?  Is it peer pressure? Is it boredom?

Many cheaters have given their reasons for cheating.  I recall a certain politician saying that he got

caught up in the euphoria of his immense success while another politician said he did it because he 

could.

     No matter the reason, the cheater always stands to lose something.  Some cheaters have lost their

marriage/relationship, their career, their dignity and even their very life.  There are those horror 

cheating stories that get made into TV movies.  Whenever I hear the news where someone is killed

because emotions turned deadly in a love triangle, I always say that it was not worth it.  Lives are 

ruined and lost in those situations and that's when you know that cheating has no winners.  

Unfortunately, many adults will act without thinking it through so I know that by morning I may be  

reading yet another story where cheating becomes a runaway train that crashes and burn.  However, it 

doesn't hurt to remind folks that cheating comes at a cost that you just may not be willing to pay so 

think before you act.

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